A Boy Mom's World

Every family is different and every parenting journey has another story to tell, but some things are the same, here are my take on things that no one told us about parenting.   1. You will finally get that phrase from your parents - You will understand when you become a parent . It is hard to understand this phrase when you are young, but once you are in their shoes you instantly get it. It is hard being a parent and it is as hard to explain this to your child - we do not have any idea how hard it is.  2. You will accidentally hurt your child and the guilt will be unbearable . Kids are unpredictable, you turn your back for one second and there they are, already crying because they fell down to their face or they get so uncontrollable that you spanked them with a stick or a hanger or a slipper. I opened this up to my psychiatrist and he said that it is ok that the kids get hurt sometimes, or you spank them sometimes, this will make them stronger. And as parents, we get tired an...

  We come across a lot of people in our lifetime - some may help you, drain you, teach you a lesson, some you teach a lesson. The kind of person that comes to your life depends on how similar your level of energy and vibrations are. If your energy don't match, you will find these people irritating, boring, draining, or even depressing. They just basically don't match to you, we may call them the "wrong" people.  But if your levels match, you will find these people interesting, fun, uplifting and positive. We may call these people the "right" people.  Now how do you attract the right people into your life? Here are some of the steps that might help: 1. Know yourself . Know what you like, what you hate, what makes you happy, miserable, what makes you feel uplifted, energized.  2. Know your personality type . Are you the type that loves to go out and meet and talk to new people and instantly get along with them or are you the type who takes a while to warm up t...

Dylan's last of Face to face class was today, he still have to attend online classes next week for their exams. But!!! I cannot believe he is already done with one year of classes, in a big school no less! And will be in Kindergarten next school year!  1st Day of School (Online Class) To tell the truth, we (parents) were not yet ready to let Dylan attend school this school year, but he was the one who kept on asking us when is he going to go, we planned on making him start his school when he is 5 turning 6, para hindi na siya sana mag-nursery. Pero sobrang insistent niya that everyday he is asking me if it's time for school na. So we decided that it is time. We looked for school around our village, Dylan had 2 interviews and passed both of them. We chose the one nearer to our house, mga around 10 minutes away pag walang traffic in BF, mga around 30-45 if traffic in the entrance, but that doesn't happen naman often.  He is always excited to go to class and much excited if it...

  A few weeks back, Dylan asked us if until what age will he reach or will he be. He recently got fascinated with age because of birthdays. So we answered he would be able reach until age 100. He got all excited because 100 is his favorite number and we really want him to live a long life. Then he also asked if mommy and daddy will also be 100. We said yes, of course and he went on his way back to what he is doing, we moved on as well. But earlier today while having our lunch, he asked me, "Mommy, are you still going to be with me when I am 100 years old?" I was shocked and it took me a moment to respond to him. I said, I may not be here anymore when you are 100. Then he asked me another question, "Where are you going to be when I'm 100?" I just said I am going somewhere. Being inquisitive that he is, he was never satisfied with my answer. He asked again where, then I just said I will be going to be with Papa Jesus.  His next question almost broke me to tears. H...

It is really super hard to look for a reliable and trustworthy house helper nowadays. We are lucky to have a helper that is with us for almost 3 years already and she is excellent with our kids. Lagi nga lang niya pinapatay yung mga bulaklak and halaman ko, but you know, you can't have everything. 😂 For us to have a harmonious and fair relationship, I created a contract for us to follow. I based this to the one Isabelle Daza once posted on her socials before.  Here is a copy of our contract: You can copy and edit this to whatever fits to your conditions.  We are also conducting a quarterly evaluation to check her performance and if there are any concerns. I hope this helps!  Let me know if you also have a contract for your house helper or you are planning to make one! Love, K PS: You can send me a message if you want to get a copy of the file. 😊

  Relationships are hard. It will always be a choice between holding on and letting go, but it will not be easy whether you stay or leave. So how do we know if we are still in a healthy relationship? Here are some questions to ask: 1. Do we have common goals for the future? 2. Do we respect and value each other for who we are? 3. Do we want the same kind of relationship? 4. Are we an enrichment for each other's lives? 5. Do we give and take from each other? 6. Do we hold time and space for each other? 7. Do we have healthy boundaries? 8. Do we communicate and discuss in a healthy way? 9. Do we encourage each other to pursue our goals? 10. Are we showing our authentic selves? 11. Do we give each other space and time? 12. Do we respect and communicate our needs, values, and boundaries? I hope these questions help you with your current relationship and work it out if you're on the brink of letting go.  Love,  K

  I came across this topic online and thought of sharing these to you. This was shared by a couples' therapist and it made an impact on me, I instantly answered the questions and also asked my husband to answer as well. We got to know each other on a different level.  If you were able to answer at least 9 out of 12, you are in a really good place in your relationship. 1. What makes them laugh and cry? 2. What are they passionate about? 3. How did their family affect their growth? 4. What makes them mad? 5. Do they have spiritual beliefs and how does it affect their life choices? 6. What are their defining moments? 7. What is the most important to them? 8. How would they define success? 9. What kind of support do they need when they're stressed or sad? 10. What are they most proud of about themselves? 11. What can instantly light them up inside? 12. How do they recharge their emotional batteries? Go and ask these questions to your spouse, you might be surprised when you compare...